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Reflections From a Therapist
Insights from a trauma-informed therapist on trauma, anxiety, healing, and the work of becoming more at ease within yourself.
What Happens in the Brain During EMDR? A Simple Explanation
EMDR helps the brain process experiences that never got fully resolved. Instead of staying stuck in survival mode, the brain learns to update old memories so they stop triggering anxiety, overwhelm, or reactivity. This post explains what actually happens in the brain during EMDR in simple, clear language.
How to Stay Regulated When Your Kids Aren’t
Parenting can activate your nervous system faster than anything else. When your child melts down, snaps, or shuts down, your body often reacts before you can think. This does not mean you are failing. It means your system is overwhelmed. In this post, you will learn why your child’s big emotions feel so triggering, what is happening inside your body in those moments, and how to stay grounded even when everything feels chaotic. You will also learn how trauma, anxiety, and ADHD can make regulation harder and what actually helps you build calm from the inside out. If you feel like parenting wipes you out or pulls you into reactions you do not want, this guide will help you feel less alone and more supported.
Why Parenting Feels Overwhelming When You Have Trauma, Anxiety, or ADHD
Parenting can feel overwhelming when you have trauma, anxiety, or ADHD not because you are failing but because your nervous system is overloaded. This blog explains why your reactions make sense and how to find more calm, confidence, and grounding with your kids.
Why You Shut Down or Get Overwhelmed So Fast
If you shut down or get overwhelmed faster than other people, nothing is wrong with you. This post explains why your nervous system reacts so quickly, how trauma shapes these patterns, and what actually helps you feel grounded, steady, and safe again.
Signs Your Nervous System Is Dysregulated (And What You Can Do About It)
Many adults live in a chronic state of “on edge” without realizing their nervous system is stuck in survival mode. This post helps you understand the signs of dysregulation and what you can do to feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control.
Why Am I So Self-Critical? A Trauma-Informed Explanation
Many adults are hard on themselves without fully understanding why. Self-criticism is not a flaw. It is a survival strategy shaped by early experiences, trauma, and a nervous system that learned to stay on alert. This post explains why your inner critic formed, why it feels so persistent, and how healing can help you relate to yourself with more clarity and compassion.
What Is a Trigger? And Why It’s Not “Just Overreacting”
Triggers aren’t signs that you’re overreacting. They’re body-based responses shaped by past experiences that your nervous system hasn’t fully processed yet. This post explains what triggers really are, why they feel so intense, how they show up in everyday life, and why your reactions make sense. You’ll learn how your body tries to protect you and how healing can help you feel steadier, safer, and more in control.
Trauma Responses Explained: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
If you’ve ever wondered why you react so quickly, shut down without meaning to, overthink everything, or work hard to keep the peace, there’s a reason — and it’s not because something is wrong with you. Trauma responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are your nervous system’s way of protecting you. This blog explains why these patterns show up, how they affect daily life, and why they’re actually signs of survival, not weakness. When you understand what your body is doing, healing begins to feel possible.
What Is Stored Trauma? How the Body Keeps the Score
Learn what stored trauma is, how it affects your mind and body, and why the nervous system sometimes holds onto past stress. This guide breaks it down simply and introduces how EMDR therapy can help you heal in a safe, compassionate way.
EMDR vs IFS: How These Two Modalities Work Together for Deep Healing
EMDR and IFS work together to help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more connected to yourself. Instead of staying stuck in old patterns or emotional overwhelm, these approaches help your system soften so the past no longer runs the show. This blog explains how both therapies support deep, lasting healing for anxious and self-critical adults who want real change.
EMDR for Anxiety: Why It Works When Traditional Talk Therapy Doesn’t
If you feel stuck in worry, overthinking, or constant “what if” thoughts, EMDR can help in a way that talk therapy alone often cannot. Anxiety lives in the body, not just in the mind, and EMDR helps your nervous system finally relax and feel safe. This blog explains how EMDR works for anxiety, why it helps so many adults who feel overwhelmed, and what the process is really like.
What Is EMDR Therapy? A Trauma Informed Guide for Adults
EMDR therapy is a powerful, evidence-based treatment that helps adults process trauma, reduce anxiety, and feel more grounded in their daily lives. This guide explains how EMDR works, what sessions are like, how long it takes, and the real changes people experience as their nervous
What Does EMDR Therapy Feel Like? A First-Time Client’s Guide
Learn what EMDR therapy really feels like and what to expect in a session with an EMDR therapist in West Chester Pennsylvania. A clear and compassionate guide for adults healing trauma and anxiety.
Beyond Talk Therapy: A Gentle Approach to Healing Trauma and Anxiety
If you’ve ever wondered why talking about your struggles isn’t enough to feel better, this post explains how gentle, body-based approaches like EMDR can help you truly feel calmer and more at peace.
Hi, I’m Nikki
I’m a a trauma-informed therapist in West Chester, PA, specializing in EMDR, anxiety, and the deep work of healing self-criticism. This blog is where I share practical tools, nervous system education, and compassionate guidance to help you understand your inner world, feel less overwhelmed, and build the foundations for real, lasting change. Whether you’re exploring therapy for the first time or looking to deepen your healing, I’m glad you’re here.