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Reflections From a Therapist

Insights from a trauma-informed therapist on trauma, anxiety, healing, and the work of becoming more at ease within yourself.

How to Stay Regulated When Your Kids Aren’t

Parenting can activate your nervous system faster than anything else. When your child melts down, snaps, or shuts down, your body often reacts before you can think. This does not mean you are failing. It means your system is overwhelmed. In this post, you will learn why your child’s big emotions feel so triggering, what is happening inside your body in those moments, and how to stay grounded even when everything feels chaotic. You will also learn how trauma, anxiety, and ADHD can make regulation harder and what actually helps you build calm from the inside out. If you feel like parenting wipes you out or pulls you into reactions you do not want, this guide will help you feel less alone and more supported.

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Why Parenting Feels Overwhelming When You Have Trauma, Anxiety, or ADHD

Parenting can feel overwhelming when you have trauma, anxiety, or ADHD not because you are failing but because your nervous system is overloaded. This blog explains why your reactions make sense and how to find more calm, confidence, and grounding with your kids.

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Signs Your Nervous System Is Dysregulated (And What You Can Do About It)

Many adults live in a chronic state of “on edge” without realizing their nervous system is stuck in survival mode. This post helps you understand the signs of dysregulation and what you can do to feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control.

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Why Am I So Self-Critical? A Trauma-Informed Explanation

Many adults are hard on themselves without fully understanding why. Self-criticism is not a flaw. It is a survival strategy shaped by early experiences, trauma, and a nervous system that learned to stay on alert. This post explains why your inner critic formed, why it feels so persistent, and how healing can help you relate to yourself with more clarity and compassion.

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What Is a Trigger? And Why It’s Not “Just Overreacting”

Triggers aren’t signs that you’re overreacting. They’re body-based responses shaped by past experiences that your nervous system hasn’t fully processed yet. This post explains what triggers really are, why they feel so intense, how they show up in everyday life, and why your reactions make sense. You’ll learn how your body tries to protect you and how healing can help you feel steadier, safer, and more in control.

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Trauma Responses Explained: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn

If you’ve ever wondered why you react so quickly, shut down without meaning to, overthink everything, or work hard to keep the peace, there’s a reason — and it’s not because something is wrong with you. Trauma responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are your nervous system’s way of protecting you. This blog explains why these patterns show up, how they affect daily life, and why they’re actually signs of survival, not weakness. When you understand what your body is doing, healing begins to feel possible.

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EMDR vs IFS: How These Two Modalities Work Together for Deep Healing

EMDR and IFS work together to help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more connected to yourself. Instead of staying stuck in old patterns or emotional overwhelm, these approaches help your system soften so the past no longer runs the show. This blog explains how both therapies support deep, lasting healing for anxious and self-critical adults who want real change.

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EMDR for Anxiety: Why It Works When Traditional Talk Therapy Doesn’t

If you feel stuck in worry, overthinking, or constant “what if” thoughts, EMDR can help in a way that talk therapy alone often cannot. Anxiety lives in the body, not just in the mind, and EMDR helps your nervous system finally relax and feel safe. This blog explains how EMDR works for anxiety, why it helps so many adults who feel overwhelmed, and what the process is really like.

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Hi, I’m Nikki

I’m a a trauma-informed therapist in West Chester, PA, specializing in EMDR, anxiety, and the deep work of healing self-criticism. This blog is where I share practical tools, nervous system education, and compassionate guidance to help you understand your inner world, feel less overwhelmed, and build the foundations for real, lasting change. Whether you’re exploring therapy for the first time or looking to deepen your healing, I’m glad you’re here.

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